10 Ways Grandparents Can Support Their Children Without Being Controlling

Rhonda Stoppe | Speaker and Author | Published: Nov 03, 2023

If you have grandkids you know how hard it is to not be too pushy with your opinions or “great ideas” to be helpful. You know what I’m talking about: The baby has croup. It sounds horrible. You’ve been there many times when your kids were little. You know that sitting with the baby near a steaming shower will do wonders, but your kids insist on researching on the internet, or taking him to the emergency room. What do you do? Do you speak up? Tell them not to go to the hospital? No? I mean, what if the cough is more serious and needs immediate medical attention?

You get the picture. And I’m sure you're nodding your head in agreement if you’ve ever been in this situation. Or, maybe the circumstance is not a health issue. Maybe it’s a suggestion you’d like to make about potty training, discipline, education, or money saving tips. Being “helpful” is not always helpful––as my husband often reminds me.


Whether you’re new at this grandparenting gig, or you’ve been at it for years, I’m sure you’d agree there’s a balance we must find between supporting versus controlling our adult children.

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Author Rhonda StoppeRhonda Stoppe is the NO REGRETS WOMAN. With more than 30 years experience of helping women build no-regrets lives. I could have listened to Rhonda talk all night, is what women say about Rhonda’s enthusiastic, humorous, transparent teaching and zeal as an evangelist. She’s committed to fulfilling the Titus 2:4 commission by mentoring, teaching, and writing books that are inspiring, grounded in Scripture, and easy to read––like you're visiting with a friend over coffee. 

Rhonda is the author of 6 books and appears on numerous radio programs, including Focus on the Family, Family Life Today and Dr. James Dobson’s FamilyTalk, & hosts The No Regrets Hour. Her new podcast, Old Ladies Know Stuff, just launched. She’s an evangelist and speaker at women’s events, College Women’s Chapel, Pastor’s Wives Conferences, MOPs and Homeschool Conventions. Sharing the gospel at her NoRegretsWoman Conference is her sweet spot. Rhonda is a regular contributor for Crosswalk and many other magazines. Rhonda ministers alongside her husband Steve, who for 20 years has pastored First Baptist Church of Patterson, California. They live out their own Real Life Romance writing books and speaking at their No Regrets Marriage Conferences, but their favorite ministry is their family. They have four grown children and ten grandchildren. To learn more about Rhonda’s speaking topics, watch her teaching, and book Rhonda for your next event, visit: NoRegretsWoman.com

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