1. Only God Has the Authority to Define a Woman's Worth
Purity culture teaches that a woman’s worth is rooted in her sexual history. If a woman had sex before marriage, she. is seen as impure or treated as inferior. This is not biblical at all. Even if a woman has sex before marriage, it does not mean she has lost any of her value. While it is ideal for a woman and a man to wait until marriage, we have to acknowledge that not everyone does this. In no way does this cause a person to lose moral ground, nor does it cause them to be a less faithful follower of Christ.
We are not God. Therefore, it is not our place to judge. If a believer chooses to have sex before marriage—whether female or male—-we know the Holy Spirit will convict them, as well as their own conscience. Their own shame and guilt will most likely drown them out. How is it Christian for us to add to their guilt and shame? Scripture reminds us guilt and shame do not come from God, who loves us, but the enemy, who seeks to accuse and destroy us. Alternately, we need to support, pray for, and help them know forgiveness is found in Christ.
The Bible tells us that if we ask God for forgiveness, He is faithful and will forgive us (1 John 1:9). This applies to anything, including sexual sins. Whether or not you are a believer, when we go to God for forgiveness, He forgives. If you are not a believer, consider getting to know the true Jesus of the Bible. Learn about Him and experience His love for you. He died for us to have abundant and eternal life (John 10:10, 17:3).
If you want to place faith in Jesus today, you can! Forgiveness and salvation are open to all. The Lord wants you to come to know and place faith in Him. He will not hold your past actions against you and will wipe away all your sins. In Him, there is redemption, forgiveness, and a new life. By placing faith in Jesus, believing He died for your sins, was buried, and rose again, you will join the family of God (John 3:16-17; 1 Corinthians 15:1-4).
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