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How Christians, Churches Can Serve People with Disabilities

Vinh Nguyen | League Director of Upward Sports at Cornerstone Church | Thursday, December 3, 2020
How Christians, Churches Can Serve People with Disabilities

How Christians, Churches Can Serve People with Disabilities

When my wife Michele was pregnant with our daughter Alli, Alli only had half a heart.

Not only did Alli have Down Syndrome, but she was also missing the aortic arch and the entire left side of her heart. We were told that if she made it to birth, she would probably have a massive heart attack. At the time, there was a rare, specialized procedure being offered in only one hospital in the country that might save her life. Doctors would insert a needle into Michele’s womb and inflate a tiny balloon into Alli’s heart, which was the size of the tip of a ballpoint pen. This would buy doctors time to do reconstructive surgery when Alli was born.

We were prepared to go to this hospital in Boston, until a miracle happened: Alli grew a heart. When our doctor saw the images, she cried. “I’ve never seen anything like this in twenty years of medicine,” she told us. The left side of Alli’s heart, and the aortic arch which had been missing, were suddenly there.

Alli had to fight for her life again on the day she was born. She arrived prematurely by emergency C-section at 34 weeks, because the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck and she was no longer moving. She lost 60% of her blood and spent a month in the neonatal intensive care unit.

But Alli fought, and she lived. She fought her way through the precarious first months of her life, when she had to be fed through a tube because, as an infant with Down Syndrome, she didn’t have the muscle tone to nurse or drink from a bottle. There were a lot of sleepless nights and worried days during that first year of life with a medically fragile baby.

But she persisted, and God sustained her. Alli fought her way through the toddler years when she was smaller than anyone else in her preschool. She fought her way all the way to five years old, when she joined a basketball team for the very first time.

Michele and I never thought Alli would be able to play sports. But when I was asked to direct my church’s Upward Sports league two years ago, I made the decision to make it the first basketball and flag football league in our region accessible to kids with differing abilities – putting neurotypical kids on the same teams as those with Down Syndrome, autism, anxiety, and physical disabilities. Erie County in western New York has a large concentration of special needs children, but there was no athletic program for these kids nearby.

I wasn’t sure how the community would receive it. Over the years, sports have become increasingly individualized, with a growing pressure on even young kids to become top-performing athletes. I didn’t want parents or their children to feel like they weren’t learning the skills they wanted to learn. So, I went into this with mixed expectations. I wasn’t prepared for the overwhelmingly supportive response to the program, from both parents and players.

We underestimate kids sometimes, but we shouldn’t, because something extraordinary happens when you put children of different abilities together on a basketball court or a sports field. Alli’s teammates, and the teammates of the other children with special needs in the program, have rallied around them. So have their opponents, who often let Alli shoot past them to make baskets, even if it means losing a point.

On the court, Alli has a “buddy” named Michael, a junior in high school. He’d never met her before this year, but he’s one of the many older kids and adults who have volunteered to be a part of the program. Instead of being out with his friends or watching television on Saturday mornings, he’s in the gym with Alli. He stays with her during practices and games and lifts her up to throw the ball, since she doesn’t have the muscle tone for her shot to consistently reach the basket.

Many of our players with special needs have volunteers like this, who hold their hands when they’re overwhelmed, or run with them when they’re overstimulated. On the teams with older kids, the players themselves take on the buddy roles, noticing when their teammates with special needs need help or encouragement. This is an opportunity to live out what we teach in Sunday School that every human life is created equal, and that God knitted all of us in our mother's womb, and we therefore praise Him, for we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:13-14). This is an opportunity to live out Philippians 2:3 to put the needs of others before your own. This is an opportunity to live out Galatians 6:2 which commands us to bear one another’s burdens. The Bible’s implications to life are endless.

Dave, our security officer, has a dog named Kiowa who comes to work with him. Kiowa is a security dog, not a therapy dog, but it didn’t take long for Kiowa to form a bond with one of our players, a boy who struggles with anxiety. Somehow, Kiowa knows how to calm him down better than anyone else. What’s remarkable is how Dave has stepped up to make sure he and Kiowa are there at every game, even when they’re not working. He once even drove through a snowstorm to get back to the gym.

This is the first time Alli and kids like her have had the chance to be part of a team in our community. The beautiful thing about her and other kids with special needs is that they are able to see people without prejudice; they don’t see what makes people different, they just see what makes them human. When someone mistreats Alli or makes a rude comment, which sometimes happens, she’ll smile just as kindly at that person as she does at everyone else.

Today is National Disability Day, a day to raise awareness about the challenges faced by people with disabilities. As Christians, we need to be aware of these challenges and we should strive to serve these families better than any entity in society. The COVID-19 pandemic has exacerbated the inequalities and lack of access that exists in this community. As churches prepare to reopen and resume programming in 2021, I encourage church leaders to reevaluate their services to children with differing abilities, and ensure that they are not just welcomed, but embraced.

As coaches and parents in our church sports leagues, we sometimes feel like we’re giving kids like Alli an opportunity. But really, they’re giving an opportunity to us. I’ll often get phone calls from people I’ve never met who have heard about the program, asking how they can help, because we’ve all quickly realized that we’re learning so much more than basketball. I’m grateful for parachurch ministries like Upward Sports that understand how sports ministry is not only a way to bond over a shared love of sports, but also an outlet to foster humility and selflessness and learn how to be better followers of Christ.

Alli will never be a competitive basketball player, and she’ll never win a college sports scholarship. But when she scores a basket, everyone in the gym gets on their feet to cheer for her, and I’ve never seen her look so proud. It’s hard not to think of how, just five years ago, she only had half a heart, and of how fiercely she fought to be shooting baskets just like any other kid.

Kids with special needs don’t need to be separated; they need to belong. The church has a calling and unique structure to provide this type of community. I don’t want Alli growing up to feel like she’s different or “less than”, and I never want her to lose the joy she has in being alive. On National Disability Day, let this be a reminder for our churches to ensure that our programming serves children and people with different abilities, because they are all fearfully and wonderfully made by our God.

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Vinh Nguyen is league director of Upward Sports at Cornerstone Church in Grand Island, New York.

How Christians, Churches Can Serve People with Disabilities