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Cal Thomas | Syndicated columnist | Monday, July 1, 2002


A new study released by Rutgers University shows that getting married is no longer a priority for many bachelors. The reasons are not surprising, given the cultural drift: men can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past; they can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying; they want to avoid divorce and its financial risks; they want to wait until they are older to have children; they fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises; they are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn't yet appeared; they face few social pressures to marry; they are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children; the want to own a house before they get a wife; and they want to enjoy a single life as long as they can.

Notice how all of this excuses are self-focused. Most men who live this way and believe such things are probably not good marriage material anyway. But they are part of a generation that has suffered from divorced parents and who rarely see healthy marriages modeled before them. So, I'm not surprised by this study, but I am saddened. I'm Cal Thomas in Washington.