Cheer Up —You're Worse Off Than You Know

  Bob DeMoss | Columnist | Friday, July 2, 2021
Cheer Up —You're Worse Off Than You Know

Last night after dinner, my twenty-something-year-old nephew, who is adopted and African-American, asked me for my opinion about the whole overblown pride month. He was offended by LGBTQ+ activists who create an equivalency between their agenda and the civil rights struggle of Black Americans.

He said, “I can’t change my skin color, but they can just decide to change their sexual preference any time they want. How is that the same thing? I don’t have a choice—they do. We’re not in the same civil rights boat.” He then wanted to know my perspective, as a person of faith, on the whole LGBTQ movement.

I started by explaining that my perspective doesn’t matter. Morality is not determined by public opinion. Rather, morality flows from God, who created and provided us with guidelines for living. Specifically, I encouraged him to read Romans 1:24-32, where the Lord makes it crystal clear that the sexual choices at the core of the LGBTQ movement are sinful. There isn’t any gray area. God’s position hasn’t changed over the years. As Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind” (ESV).

Then, I told him about a fascinating three-hour conversation I had with a man on a flight from Los Angeles to Nashville. We couldn’t have been coming from more polar opposite perspectives. He announced he’s gay. I’m straight. He’s a Democrat. I vote Republican. He is pro-left. I believe most policies on the left are fiscally, morally, and nationally irresponsible. He’s living with his male partner. I live with a wife and kids.

And yet, God was in the middle of that conversation. We talked about everything from taxes and fiscal policies to the debate over the definition of marriage. Throughout, I wanted him to know that while I have a very different set of moral values, I respected him as someone made in the image of God.

Perhaps the most important part of the conversation was when we talked about his being excommunicated at age 19 from the Church of God for his same-sex attraction. When I asked him how that impacted his view of God, he said, “I’m not sure how God could call my love for the man that I’ve been living with for 28 years ‘sin’ when everything about our relationship feels so right.”

How did he reconcile that? “I just don’t call it sin.”

At that point, I told him that the whole point of Christianity isn’t “sin management” but falling in love with Jesus. Besides, we don’t get to make the call as to whether or not something is sinful; that’s God’s call—whether we’re talking about sexuality, lying, cheating, stealing or anything else which God says is sinful.

I shared something that my pastor Jack Miller back in Philly used to often say: “Cheer up—you’re worse off than you know ... and you’re loved more than you can comprehend.” What’s more, my sin was no different than his sin—and in both of our cases, Jesus loves us unconditionally.

As we were about to deplane, my fellow passenger said how much he appreciated the conversation and the respect he felt throughout. He mentioned that feeling several times, which impressed upon me that honoring and respecting and loving those with whom we disagree is so important for any meaningful communication to take place. Since that encounter, I’ve prayed that the Holy Spirit will be pleased to work in his life, first and foremost, to know how much he is loved by Jesus.

As my nephew stood to leave the dinner table, I told him that he had three choices: 1) support the agenda of the pride movement, 2) passively try to ignore it, or 3) speak compassionately yet with conviction to his generation who desperately need the Lord. I’m picking the third option. You?

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Bob DeMoss is a New York Times bestselling author of more than 40 books including collaborations with Phil Robertson/Duck Dynasty, Jim Daly/Focus on the Family, Andy Stanley, and Tim LaHaye/Left Behind. His latest short story is "Hazel: The Outlaw Mummy". Visit